Something I Want for My Boys Even More Than Their Happiness

By Ron Edmondson

“In fact, I’d almost sacrifice their happiness—at least in the short-term—for them to achieve this in the long-term.”

My boys are in their mid 20s. They have pretty stable lives. They came off our payroll pretty much right out of college, which I guess is considered a blessing these days. They work hard. They are responsible.

Best of all they love Jesus and people. They both serve Him in their own way.
They have great relationships in their lives. Everyone seems to love them who knows them. As every parent does, I love when people brag on them. And I get to experience it regularly. One of them is married to a wonderful Christian lady.
I know, it seems I’m bragging—and I am. Let him who boasts boast in the Lord, and I give Him all the glory. Our family is truly a product of grace.
Every parent wants their children to be happy. That seems to go without saying.
I certainly want that for my boys. It’s something I even pray for frequently.
But there is something I want more for my boys more than their happiness.
In fact, I’d almost sacrifice their happiness—at least in the short-term—for them to achieve this in the long-term.

I want my boys to be obedient.

I want them to go wherever God leads and do whatever God commands. I want them to trust His leadership, follow His plan and surrender their will to His will. I want them to someday hear those words, “Well done good and faithful servant. Well done!” 
Even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when it’s not their plan.
You see, I’ve learned by experience in my own life.
I know the center of God’s will is the absolute best place to be.
Granted, it’s not always the safest place in terms of the world, but it’s always the safest place in terms of the kingdom of God.
Do I want my boys to be happy? Don’t let me close this post without you knowing I do. Yes, I do want their happiness. In fact, I believe ultimate happiness is found in living within the pleasure of God—delighting in the things in which He delights.
But more than anything—I simply want my boys to be obedient.  

Ron Edmondson is a pastor and church leader passionate about planting churches, helping established churches thrive, and assisting pastors and those in ministry think through leadership, strategy and life. Ron has over 20 years business experience, mostly as a self-employed business owner, and he's been helping churches grow vocationally for over 10 years. More from Ron Edmondson or visit Ron at http://www.ronedmondson.com/