by Tim Popadic
Pastors, we all know you get “paid” to be the spiritual leader, but what about being the spiritual leader at home? (You don’t get paid for that.) Here’s a little secret: Many wives will agree that “spiritual leadership” is at the very top of the list of love needs.
For sure, one of the hardest hurdles to climb in marriage is spiritual intimacy. There are tons of books and resources to help you think this through, but who’s got time for all of that? So here’s a helpful starting tip — Please do not go out and buy the biggest couples devotional books and force-feed your spiritual side. Rather, be intentional, and take your first step today.
Here’s a great way to start. When you wake up in the morning, reach over to your spouse, and gently place your hand on her shoulder or arm. In a very soft but audible way begin to offer up a simple prayer over her. Simple as in 30 seconds, max. “Lord help (insert wife’s name) today as she goes about her day. I know she has a medical appointment; give her your peace. Please help her be patient with the kids today, and thank you for my bride. I love her, and we love you Lord. Amen.” There’s a strong possibility that your wife will pretend to be asleep, but trust me, she’s listening to every word, and it’s feeding her soul.
So this simple act increased your spiritual intimacy, and your spouse heard you taking an interest in her and in her day (instead of your ministry). Congratulations, you’re now one step closer to improving your marriage and becoming the spiritual leader that God intends for you to be! Commit to this simple 30-second challenge over the next few weeks, and I guarantee that your marriage will be spicier.