Keeping Promises When the Situation Has Changed
Whenever I do a wedding service, everyone who knows me waits for me to ask the couple “the question.” What’s the question? It goes something like this.“Now, we have come to the part of the service we call ‘the charge to the couple.’ It’s the few minutes I’m given during a wedding ceremony to help you understand the seriousness of the vows you’re about to take. What I’d really like to do is look you in the eye like, I’m doing now, and ask you, ‘Do you have any idea what you’re doing?’”
The laughter from the congregation behind them lets the couple know all of the married people in attendance had no idea what they were getting into when they exchanged vows with their spouse. Basically, the vows say, “We’re going to be together come hell or high water.” Sure, we say them a little more poetically, but that’s what the wedding vows say.
Standing in the sanctuary surrounded by people who love you makes it easy to say, “until death do us part.” But life happens. Things don’t go the way you planned…then what? Can you keep a promise when the circumstances have changed?
What happens when your husband comes home, and you can tell by the slumping of his shoulders that this day has just been too hard? Will you still be able to tell him he’s your hero? Even when he loses?
What happens when you come home from work, and your wife is still wearing what she had on when you left that morning—plus what the baby has thrown up on her? Can you step across the toys, take the screaming baby in your arms, and tell her she’s still the prettiest woman you’ve ever seen? Can you keep a promise when the situation is very different?
That’s the question, isn’t it? Not, does your spouse meet your needs, but are you the kind of person who keeps promises?
We serve a God who keeps His promises. As His people, we keep our promises. Promise keeping and integrity are part of the Christ-formed life. We keep our promises even when the situation changes.